Welcome to the Blog
Hello and welcome to the blog. There’s so much to say, but it’s just bad form to make our new guests read a lot of exposition before we’ve gotten to know each other — so I’ll try to make this brief and fill in back story as we post.
The purpose of this blog is to express ideas, frustrations, joys, and musings. (Really?! I thought the purpose of a blog was to solve world issues!) Ah, cheeky visitor, you got me there. But see… well, here’s the situation:
I, “CelticKuma,” am a polyamorous fellow married to an amazing woman, and we’re both living in the same house with my lovely paramour of (as of this writing) exactly one and a half years, and her erudite husband. And our (my wife and my) brilliant daughter. In one house. Together. Just moved here barely a few months ago. I’m sure you can understand a need to vent and express happy and frustrating times.
However, and here’s the rub: I can’t use Facebook or my other blogs to do so because of the need to keep this wonderful, complicated, loving, complex, and dynamic journey discreet, secret, shamefully kept in a closet. (First major issue of frustration exposing itself here, can you tell?) Because certain family members who would never understand and have previously shown how they react to when family members reveal themselves to not follow narrow ideas of what’s “normal,” would react very, very badly to finding out their offspring is not limited to strict ideas of what love is and who can be loved. So, alas, no outlet aside from the echo chamber that is our immediate household, to express myself.
I don’t have pretensions that what I write here will help others or inspire others or change minds — this is mostly for me. (And the other members of this household, pod, commune, polycule who will contribute.) However, if what gets posted here does actually help someone else see that living polyamory is challenging, rewarding, difficult, joyful… in other words, normal… then that’s icing on the cake.
Being a geek, and embarrassingly drawn to puns (*shameful headdesk*) the term polynomial jumps to mind when I think of “poly.” So I’ve mulled that around a bit, knowing it involved variables, and then decided to remind myself exactly what it meant and exorcise that word like an earworm of a song stuck in my head. And Wikipedia says:
In mathematics, a polynomial is an expression consisting of variables (or indeterminates) and coefficients, that involves only the operations of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and non-negative integer exponents.
Variables, additions, non-negative i.e. “positive”… hmmm.
And then of course “nomial” is just a phoneme off from “normal,” and then it clicked. “Polynormal.” A way of loving, living, that has many variables, includes adding and multiplying people and relationships and loves, strives to be positive…and is above all, not abnormal! Not to pat myself on the back too hard, but wow, what a cool term!
While this blog is primarily an outlet for me, and my household mates, to freely express ourselves, I really do hope that it does help show people that polyamorous people are normal people. We have issues and problems, and hopes and dreams, and desires and conflict, and joys, just like everyone. We’re no better nor worse, more together nor more needy, more mature nor more selfish, than anyone else. We just have come to a different way of being normal.